We all wish we could have a glimpse into the mind of the person we’re crushing on. Does he like me as much as I like him? Does she even know I exist? Why isn’t he calling me back? Why doesn’t she text me back?
With all these modern dating rules, it’s really hard to tell when someone is or isn’t really into you. In the happy scenarios, you know when someone likes you because he or she actually told you that. In the not so happy scenarios, you’re left wondering if something is ever going to happen for the two of you. Even though from a girl’s perspective the guys are the ones that are pretty hard to read, we’re gonna switch it up a bit and put things from a girl perspective. So here are a couple of helpful tips that might show you when a girl is just not that into you.
1. “I’m just not ready for a relationship right now.”
What she’s really saying: “I don’t want a
relationship with you.”
It doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. It’s not like you’re proposing or anything. But if you asked a girl out on several occassions and she eventually says that she’s not ready for anything right now, that means that she’s just not that into you. When a girl really likes a guy, trust me, she will want to spend every waking moment with that guy. And if it clicks, she will want to spend more and more time with him.
2. “I feel like I should focus on myself more.”
What she’s really saying: “I’d rather be single
than be with you.”
From her perspective, you’re not really compatible. Girls usually know from the second they see you if you’re boyfriend material or not, and yes, sometimes impressions can be changed, but for the most part, by the time you start talking, she’s already made up her mind. She’s probably looking for someone that will make her want to stop “focusing” on herself, and that’s just not you right now.
3. “This is sooo not the time, but maybe…in the future.”
What she’s really saying: “Still don’t
want to be in a relationship with you right now, but please do continue to boost my ego.”
Not only is this girl not into you right now, but she’s also pretty much using you to get the male attention that she wants in order to feel better about herself. All the compliments you’ve been giving her, the reasons why you like her, the little presents you gave? Yup, she
took all of those, and used them to boost
her own ego. She still won’t date you though.
4. “I already have someone/am already seeing someone.”
Even though you know for a fact, she’s not!
What she’s really saying: “Please don’t talk to me again or my imaginary boyfriend will kick
Sometimes chicks like to make up fake boyfriends for various and intricate reasons. One would be that they’re tired of cheesy pickup lines and want to cut it short. Another is when they don’t think the guy hitting on them even deserves the chance of a date. Third reason is: when they don’t want to hurt any feelings, and they’re afraid of telling the guy that they’re just not that into him.
5. “I’m really busy this week.”
What she’s really saying: “I really don’t want to hang out with you.”
This is the case of the modern busy girl. Which many of us truly are, balancing a full time job, a couple of other projects and a social life (plus family). But if she says she’s busy this week and doesn’t tell you when she is available (ie: “busy this week, but let’s meetup next Monday“) it’s almost as saying that she will be permanently busy.